Have you been a victim of a Gaslighter?
Have you recognized the signs of being gaslit, manipulated to the point of confusion, wondering if you are losing your mind???
You are not losing your mind, and you are not alone.
Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of mental abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting their own memory, perception, and sanity. Instances may range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim. Source: Wikipedia.
The gaslighter may be your life partner, a new relationship, employer, employee or co-worker, friend, family member, neighbour….etc.
The “perfect victim” is someone that is feeling insecure, non self-accepting, non self-deserving. The gaslighter/manipulator will charm the “victim” until he/she has the “victim” under their power, their control.
Gaslighting is insidious, extremely painful and emotionally debilitating. It strips its victims of self-confidence, security, and personality.
The very, very good news is that once you recognize and identify the signs and symptoms of gaslighting, you are in the position of recovery.
Either in healing the destructive relationship or leaving it. And of course, healing yourself from the drama and abuse.
Even if you feel thoroughly beaten down by the relationship.
There is hope, and there is relief.
Imagine this: A course of only 4 short weeks, at 1.15 hour per week, via Skype, hearing and sharing (if you desire) experiences of having been gaslighted. Then, learning and receiving life tools from me, to recover from the abuse/dysfunction, moving upward to a heightened knowledge of inner security.
- Identifying the words and actions that had triggered you into consciously hearing and accepting the abusers words and actions. Some of the examples you think of will shock you.
And, extremely importantly, learning to NOT accept the words or actions.
- What is “gaslighting?” Real life examples of gaslighting. How did you come to this place of insecurity, low self-esteem, of low self-value.
- Changing how you view yourself and the world around you. Understanding that no matter “who” the abuser/manipulator is, he/she does NOT have the right to abuse or manipulate you. He/she does NOT have the right to Gaslight you.
What does your self-language sound like? Make a pledge to no longer accept any abusive or manipulative words, actions or persons, including abuse from yourself.
- You connecting with You, in a Strong, Positive, Confident manner.
We will discuss examples of self-talk, the importance of practicing positive words and statements to yourself.
I will check in with each and every one of you to ensure you have a fully loaded “toolbox”.